IS TRUTH SUBJECTIVE

As everyone can understand, there is this puny you and unimaginably enormous cosmos around you. Whether you live or die matters little to this infinite universe. What difference it makes to galaxies thousands of light years away and the beings that may be there whether you are there or not. So one can say that universe is objective, your existence inside it matters little.

However from another angle this universe ceases to be once you are not there. The universe is there as long as there is perception of it within you. When the perception dies the universe ceases to exist. The sight, sound, smell and the perception itself that the universe is there is no more. Hence universe is subjective. With you the universe is born and with you universe dies.

Similarly whether one is doing right and wrong is both objective and subjective. Let us take the case of a most heinous crime, murder. Objectively any murder or killing is wrong and a crime. Nazis killed millions during Second World War particularly during Jewish holocaust (about 11million were killed). To the outer world it is a crime and murder. But to the Nazis it was rightful thing to do, a revenge for all the miseries heaped on them by the Jews throughout the ages. When the allied forces conquered Germany they killed 5.5 million Germans which are not perceived as murder but rightful killing.

What al Qaeda is doing today, killing innocent people is right to them because they believe they are doing it for the right cause whereas to the many of the rest of the world it is most heinous crime. If you kill somebody because he kills your husband may be right to you but not to the relatives of the killed person.

In our day to day life there is always an opposing point of view. What is right to you is completely wrong for someone else. Just like India and Pakistan both feel Kashmir is part of them. Since each has an own world view and a universe of his own, which as I said is subjective the truths are also subjective. So it is true for an atheist that there is no god as it is true for a believer that there is god. In a subjective universe both is true and there are many truths as opinions.

The Science of Sex Appeal (Face)

Why do we find certain person attractive? Is there any logic or science behind that?Well there is. Scientists have researched all the different aspects of sex appeal. And the conclusion is  very deeply fundamental to our very existence and our inherent desire to live forever by reproducing our genes in the form of children.We find those people attractive because we want to mate with them.And why  do we want to mate with them ?Because their features suggest to us that they are the fittest to produce good children,i.e,they have healthy genes inside.

Let us take the case of face first  because most of the times we look at the face of an individual first.

In the University of Aberdeen,Scotland psychologist Lisa Debruine  in her Face Research Lab has done some very revealing work on this.

In her research she has broken down the face into its different components, namely eyes,nose,mouth and skin. She has taken an average caucasian man and woman (by sampling from 60 males and females).The average woman has smaller jaw,thinner eyebrows ,men have more square jaws,thicker eyebrow and more square hairline.

Average caucasian woman and man . Courtesy Discovery Channel

Debruine has devised a way to make the face of a woman more feminine or masculine by making her eyes smaller or larger, jaw thinner or squarer,eyebrows more thinner (and raising it a bit) or flatter.She then placed the unchanged photo,the masculanised photo and the feminised photo to men.81 percent men preferred the more feminised woman. Similarly majority of females liked the more masculinised male.

    

               masculinised                                         unchanged                                      feminised

     

Now the question is why a face gets more masculine or feminine? During childhood both males and females look similar.As adolescence arrives  sex hormones begin to generate in both sexes.Testosterone in men and estrogen and progesterone in women.These hormones cause male features and female features to develop in case of men and women respectively.The more male hormone the more pronounced male features and more female hormones the more pronounced female features. The higher amount of sex hormones means a very healthy reproductive ability. This also generally indicate good health. Therefore mating with these individuals has more chances of producing healthy children.

So we find an individual attractive because his features indicate that mating with him or her will be profitable for having good children and useful in passing on our own genes to the future generation and thereby perpetuating them.

( Adapted from Discovery Channel video Science of Sex appeal)

http://dsc.discovery.com/videos/science-of-sex-appeal-human-behavior/

SURE STEPS TO MAKE MONEY

The first and most important requirement to make money is a deep hunger for it. The more hunger you have for money more likely that you will make it. This law is applicable to all things. The more hunger you feel for something more likely you are to achieve it.

Since you are reading this article I assume that you have a reasonable appetite to make money.

You can make money with anything in this world because you get money for what is required in life. The point is everything is required in life to some extent, so if you are able to provide quality things in that particular field consistently and competitively you will make money.

Although you can make money with anything it is best to choose something which you like to do best. So if you like to write poetry try to not make selling breads your profession. Because you will make quality things only when you like your work consistently. And more you like a work more you will do it consistently. If you are happy with what you are doing professionally it surely will fetch you money.

Do not do one thing today and another thing tomorrow however more lucrative a thing may seem to you than what you are doing now because everything  has its own pitfalls and whatever you are doing has its own advantages.

Do not lose your time with brooding about your failures. Nothing is achievable at one go and failures are the best way to learn and improve your merchandise whatever it is.

To make money you have to concentrate at one way of doing it steadfastly and do it again and again and go on improving it till the end of your life and know more and more about it and then diversify it.

And when you make money you have to find a way to save it because if you spend all your money no money is earned. To do that if you have to judge by your instinct where you should spend and where you should not. So spend very prudently.

Help others in every way you can but in a balanced way, because unless you help others they will not help you and without other’s help you will not make money.

Do not crave for instant success. If you do your work persistently success will come slowly but surely.

Now I am coming to the most important point and key to success in any field in life. To do all the things above you have to control your mind. Because mind is generally very frivolous and make you do things which will result in losses. In fact controlling our minds is the ultimate and only real challenge of life. You must make your mind focus at the thing you like, in this case ways of making money. It is not easy and you have to practice it. Each day meditate on something for a certain length of time, starting with a very small time which you can manage and then go on increasing. As your control over mind increases your control over everything will increase including making money. You will find deep but easy ways to achieve your goal and you will react to emergencies better. Your capacity of decision making will be greater and greater.It will make you disciplined. It will even make you like a job you generally dislike. So if you are trapped in a profession you do not like this is the only way out.

And lastly do not forget to give your daily prayer to God. Remember whatever you do the factors in life are so innumerable that without the help of the Omnipotent you will not be achieve anything in life. If you are an atheist always try to do what your intuition and conscience tells you to do, because conscience is a form of God dwelling inside each of us. So give a part of income for benevolent causes. The more the better. It will come back to you tenfold in way of happiness and money.

ADVANTAGES OF BEING DRAUPADI

     Many in history have discussed about the pain of Draupadi  for being shared by five men at the unintentional directive of her mother in law Kunti. She had many misfortunes including being humiliated in the royal court of Kauravas and her five sons being killed in a single night by Ashwathama at the end of Kuruksekhtra battle. However if you get to think of it she enjoyed a few things which are unparalleled by any Indian woman or for that matter woman of any other country.

1.She had five handsome virile men whom she could enjoy according to her mood. She could “ do” with her devars ( brother-in-law) and bhasurji which is a secret wish of many Indian women . And nobody had the right to call her any bad name for that , instead people sympathized her for it. She could compare the abilities of these great guys in bed and say it to the other guy if she was not satisfied. She had the man she loved but had an additional bonus of four more exceptional men at her disposal for her any need.

2.She had a different man for different needs. If she had any physical ailments she could go to Nakula or Sahadeva who were doctors. If she had something to do which was physically challenging she could and did go to Bhima. Like smashing the bones of somebody who mistreated her or anybody she disliked, or get a flower from heaven which was not available in earth. She could go shopping with a guy her mood fitted with.

3 For romantic trysts and husbandly transactions she could go to Arjuna . She had the prize honor of having the greatest hero as her husband of whom she could boast of to anybody she liked.

          

4.For spiritual and philosophical tete-a tete she could go to Yudhistira. Also if she had a bad mood she used him as a punching bag which she did quite often. She was fortunate enough to have someone to spit away about all her misfortunes.

5.She had God Himself , Lord Krishna, as her personal friend and savior were she in any trouble. Which other woman in the world had such unparalleled advantage.

In the annals of Mahabharata Draupadi has been painted as one of the most unfortunate women and somebody you wanted to sympathize. However if you think quietly all her wishes were fulfilled. She was a queen of a great prince and possessed all the wealth she wanted at the end. Her greatest humiliation in life, the attempt of disrobing of her at the royal court was fully avenged with the death of all the Kauravas including the chief miscreant Duhsashana the way she liked , she washed her hair with blood from his chest.

In fact she is the central female in Mahabharata and the battle of Kurukhsetra happened to a great extent for her and she won in the end.

FREEDOM

The REAL FREEDOM is freedom from DESIRE.
We are slaves of others because we are slaves of our desires. When the desire is gone we are free from every slavery. However one need just a little bit of desire to live. Without any desire a man ceases to exist. So the ultimate freedom is death.

THE NAZI WHO SENT MAN TO MOON

Wernher Von Braun was born in born in Wirsitz,Germany (now in Poland) on 23 rd March ,1912.He had aristocratic ancestry from both his father and mother’s side.During his childhood his mother had given him a telescope and he developed passion for astronomy.The family moved to Berlin after world war 1 when wirsitz was transferred to Poland.He also learnt to play and cello and became an accomplished musician who could play Bach and Beethoven from memory. In fact during his early life he aimed at being a musician. Braun attended a school near weimar where he did not do very well in mathematics and physics.In 1928 his parents moved him to Hermann-Lietz-Internat on the East Frisian island of Spiekeroog. There he acquired a copy of Die Rakete zu den Planetenräumen (1929) (By Rocket into Interplanetary Space) (in German) by rocket pioneer Hermann Oberth. Space travel had always fascinated von Braun, and from then on he applied himself to physics and mathematics to pursue his interest in rocket engineering.

In 1930 he attended the Technical University of Berlin, where he joined the Verein für Raumschiffahrt (VfR, the "Spaceflight Society") and assisted Willy Ley in his liquid-fueled rocket motor tests in conjunction with Hermann Oberth. He also studied at ETH Zurich. Although he worked mainly on military rockets in his later years there, space travel remained his primary interest. The following episode from the early 1930s is telling in this respect. At this time von Braun attended a presentation given by Auguste Piccard. After the talk the young student approached the famous pioneer of high-altitude balloon flight, and stated to him: "You know, I plan on travelling to the Moon at some time."

Von Braun was working on his creative doctorate when Nazis came to power in Germany.He completed his doctorate  in physics from University of Berlin .Only part of his doctoral thesis because The full thesis contained many secrets of rocketry and was published only in 1960.Braun was influenced by the father of rocketry,the american Robert H Goddard. An artillary captain Domberger arranged for grants from ordnance department.

Civilian rocket tests were forbidden by the new Nazi regime. Only military development was allowed and to this end, a larger facility was erected at the village of Peenemunde in northern Germany on the Baltic Sea. Dornberger became the military commander at Peenemunde, with von Braun as technical director. In collaboration with the Luftwaffe, the Peenemünde group developed liquid-fuel rocket engines for aircraft and jet-assisted takeoffs. They also developed the long-range A-4 ballistic missile and the supersonic Wasserfall anti-aircraft missile.
In November 1937 (other sources: December 1, 1932), von Braun joined the National Socialist German Workers Party. An Office of Military Government, United States document dated April 23, 1947, states that von Braun joined the Waffen-SS (Schutzstaffel) horseback riding school in 1933, then the National Socialist Party on May 1, 1937, and became an officer in the Waffen-SS from May 1940 until the end of the war.
According to Von Braun’s own version he joined  Nazi party and SS under pressure because he had no other option and ordered by SS chief Heinrich Himmler to do so.His version was disputed by many others. There is a picture which shows Braun in uniform with Himmler.Many said he wore the uniform regularly although Braun claimed he wore it only once.He was thrice promoted by Himmler although he claimed the promotions were technical ones

VON BRAUN WITH HIMMLER

In 1943 Adolf Hitler became very enthusiastic about rocket weapon signed the order approving the production of the A-4 as a "vengeance weapon" and the group developed it to target London. Hitler was so enthusiastic that he personally made von Braun a professor shortly thereafter. In Germany at this time, this was an exceptional promotion for an engineer who was only 31 years old.

DIAGRAM OF V2 ROCKET

British and Soviets were aware of Hitler’s rocket programme and Braun and bombed Peenemunde heavily on 17 -18^th august, 1943.Although many people died Braun’s group and facilities remained largely intact.

SS General Hans Kammler who as an engineer had constructed several concentration camps including Auschwitz, had a reputation for brutality and had originated the idea of using concentration camp prisoners as slave laborers in the rocket program. Arthur Rudolph, chief engineer of the V-2 rocket factory at Peenemünde, endorsed this idea in April 1943 when a labor shortage developed. More people died building the V-2 rockets than were killed by it as a weapon. Von Braun admitted visiting the plant at Mittelwerk on many occasions, and called conditions at the plant "repulsive", but claimed never to have witnessed any deaths or beatings, although it had become clear to him by 1944 that deaths had occurred. He denied ever having visited the Mittelbau-Dora concentration camp itself, where 20,000 died from illness, beatings, hangings and intolerable working conditions. A friend quotes von Braun speaking of a visit to Mittelwerk:

“It is hellish. My spontaneous reaction was to talk to one of the SS guards, only to be told with unmistakable harshness that I should mind my own business, or find myself in the same striped fatigues!... I realized that any attempt of reasoning on humane grounds would be utterly futile.”

VON BRAUN WITH SS COLLEAGUES IN 1941

Others claim von Braun engaged in brutal treatment or approved of it. Guy Morand, a French resistance fighter who was a prisoner in Dora, testified in 1995 that after an apparent sabotage attempt:
Without even listening to my explanations, [von Braun] ordered the Meister to have me given 25 strokes...Then, judging that the strokes weren't sufficiently hard, he ordered I be flogged more vigorously...von Braun made me translate that I deserved much more, that in fact I deserved to be hanged...I would say his cruelty, of which I was personally a victim, are, I would say, an eloquent testimony to his Nazi fanaticism.
Robert Cazabonne, another French prisoner, testified that von Braun stood by and watched as prisoners were hung by chains from hoists. Von Braun claimed he "never saw any kind of abuse or killing" and only "heard rumors...that some prisoners had been hanged in the underground galleries".
Von Braun was arrested by Gestapo because of his “defeatist” attitude on war on March 14 ,1944 but released soon because german leadership understood the importance of Braun working on rocketry.
On May 2, 1945 almost at the end of the war Braun,his brother and almosst the whole Peenemunde team surrendered to Americans in Bavarian Alps.
The americans were very much aware of the importance of the catch.He was detained and interrogated by americans thoroughly and detained him in germany for a short time. On June 20, 1945, the U.S. Secretary of State approved the transfer of von Braun and his specialists to America; however this was not announced to the public until October 1, 1945. Von Braun was among those scientists for whom the U.S. Joint Intelligence Objectives Agency created false employment histories and expunged Nazi Party memberships and regime affiliations from the public record. Once “bleached” of their Nazism, the US Government granted the scientists security clearance to work in the United States. "Paperclip," the project’s operational name, derived from the paperclips used to attach the scientists’ new political personæ to their “US Government Scientist” personnel files.
Braun  and his remaining Peenemunde staff  were transferred to their new home at Fort Bliss, Texas, a large Army installation just north of El PasoThere he remained largely as a “prisoner of peace” and unused although . While there, they trained military, industrial and university personnel in the intricacies of rockets and guided missiles. As part of the Hermes project they helped to refurbish, assemble and launch a number of V-2s that had been shipped from Germany to the White Sands Proving Ground in New Mexico
On March 1, 1947 Braun married his first cousin Maria in a trip back to Germany.
. In 1950, at the start of the Korean War von Braun and his team were transferred to Huntsville, Alabama his home for the next 20 years. Between 1950 and 1956, von Braun led the Army's rocket development team at Redstone Arsenal, resulting in the Redstone rocket, which was used for the first live nuclear ballistic missile tests conducted by the United States.
As director of the Development Operations Division of the Army Ballistic Missile Agency (ABMA), von Braun, with his team, then developed the Jupiter-C, a modified Redstone rocket. The Jupiter-C successfully launched the West's first satellite, Explorer 1 on January 31, 1958. This event signaled the birth of America's space program.
Despite the work on the Redstone rocket, the twelve years from 1945 to 1957 were probably some of the most frustrating for von Braun and his colleagues. In the Soviet Union, Sergei Korolev and his team of scientists and engineers plowed ahead with several new rocket designs and the Sputnik program, while the American government was not very interested in von Braun's work or views and only embarked on a very modest rocket-building program. In the meantime, the press tended to dwell on von Braun's past as a member of the SS and the slave labor used to build his V-2 rockets.
To end his frustration Braun chose to go to public and popularize his vision of men landing on moon through articles,tv talks and journals. The May 14, 1950 headline of The Huntsville Times ("Dr. von Braun Says Rocket Flights Possible to Moon") might have marked the beginning of these efforts. These disclosures rode a moonflight publicity wave that was created by the two 1950 U.S. science fiction films, Destination Moon and Rocketship X-M. At this time von Braun also worked out preliminary concepts for a manned Mars mission that used the space station as a staging point
The U.S. Navy had been tasked with building a rocket to lift satellites into orbit, but the resulting Vanguard rocket launch system was unreliable. In 1957, with the launch of Sputnik 1, there was a growing belief within the United States that America lagged behind the Soviet Union in the emerging Space Race. American authorities then chose to utilize von Braun and his German team's experience with missiles to create an orbital launch vehicle, something von Braun had originally proposed in 1954 but had been denied.

WALT DISNEY & VON BRAUN IN 1954

NASA was established by law on July 29, 1958. One day later, the 50th Redstone rocket was successfully launched from Johnston Atoll in the south Pacific as part of Operation Hardtack I. Two years later, NASA opened the Marshall Space Flight Center at Redstone Arsenal in Huntsville, and the ABMA development team led by von Braun was transferred to NASA. In a face-to-face meeting with Herb York at the Pentagon, von Braun made it clear he would go to NASA only if development of the Saturn was allowed to continue.Presiding from July 1960 to February 1970, von Braun became the center's first Director.
The Marshall Center's first major program was the development of Saturn rockets to carry heavy payloads into and beyond Earth orbit. From this, the Apollo program for manned moon flights was developed. Wernher von Braun initially pushed for a flight engineering concept that called for an Earth orbit rendezvous technique (the approach he had argued for building his space station), but in 1962 he converted to the more risky lunar orbit rendezvous concept that was subsequently realized.During Apollo, he worked closely with former Peenemünde teammate, Kurt H. Debus, the first director of the Kennedy Space Center. His dream to help mankind set foot on the Moon became a reality on July 16, 1969 when a Marshall-developed Saturn V rocket launched the crew of Apollo 11 on its historic eight-day mission. Over the course of the program, Saturn V rockets enabled six teams of astronauts to reach the surface of the Moon.

WITH PRESIDENT JOHN KENNEDY

SATURN ROCKET

During the late 1960s, von Braun was instrumental in the development of the U.S. Space & Rocket Center in Huntsville. The desk from which he guided America's entry in the Space Race remains on display there.
However, on March 1, 1970, von Braun and his family relocated to Washington, D.C., when he was assigned the post of NASA's Deputy Associate Administrator for Planning at NASA Headquarters. After a series of conflicts associated with the truncation of the Apollo program, and facing severe budget constraints, von Braun retired from NASA on May 26, 1972.

APOLLO 11 LAUNCH

BRAUN WITH COLLEAGUES FROM NASA AFTER APOLLO 11 SUCCESSFUL  MOON LANDING

MAN ON THE MOON

BRAUN IN HIS OFFICE AT NASA HEADQUARTERS, 1970

WIFE MARIA

In 1973 a routine health check revealed kidney cancer, which during the following years could not be controlled by surgery. Von Braun continued his work to the extent possible, which included accepting invitations to speak at colleges and universities as he was eager to cultivate interest in human spaceflight and rocketry, particularly with students and a new generation of engineers.
Von Braun helped establish and promote the National Space Institute, a precursor of the present-day National Space Society, in 1975, and became its first president and chairman. In 1976, he became scientific consultant to Lutz Kayser, the CEO of OTRAG, and a member of the Daimler-Benz board of directors. However, his deteriorating health forced him to retire from Fairchild on December 31, 1976. When the 1975 National Medal of Science was awarded to him in early 1977 he was hospitalized, and unable to attend the White House ceremony.

On June 16, 1977, Wernher von Braun died of pancreatic cancer in Alexandria, Virginia, at the age of 65. He was buried at the Ivy Hill Cemetery in Alexandria, Virginia..

(This article is largely adapted from Wikipedia article On Von Braun)

My Wife and Sleepless in Seattle

Why am I writing this?

Who would read a review of a movie which has released 20 years back and although a few people still watch it in DVDs and internet people in general are not very much aware of it right now.

However people do things which sometimes defy reasons. Or there is a more ulterior subtle reason which even the person who is doing it cannot fathom.

Sleepless in Seattle was movie made in 1993 starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan and IMDb  rates it a bit above average (6..7). It is a story well told (writer Jeff Arch) and it revolves around the theme l “love”. Particularly love of a bereaved husband for his deceased wife. The light had gone out of his life until in a quirk of fate he meets a woman because his eight year old son answers a radio talk show. The love he once thought impossible again (as dearly he loved his wife) lights up his life once more.

After the movie ends you feel a quiet satisfaction.  The movie captures the intangible thing called “love” in a compelling way. Particularly the love which means care, companionship and the inner nearness. The love which a husband/wife feels for his wife/husband with whom he is in love. For which he/she can forgive thousand folly of the other one and can do almost anything for the other. He /she can bear physical distress, humiliation and sometime even die. It is not the wild kind of love which craves for wild physical intimacy but a gentle hug which embraces all life. Because with this particular kind of love the hinge pin of life is the other person. Whatever you do, your goals and striving for success is permanently locked with this person in life. The stars, the cosmos is meaningless without the other. In one of the most touching scenes the man tells his son with excruciating care and love how his (the son’s)mother could peel an apple at one go, which was one of the million other things he loved about his wife.

And here I got involved with the movie. It is an enjoyable movie and quite a hit (it was made with $21 million and grossed more than 10 times the money in box office). But it meant a lot more than any other good movie to me. Because it involves the central point why I continue to live.

Have you ever had this fear of losing something immensely valuable? I think almost everyone has. And although you have not lost it your mind is aggrieved because you think that one day you will lose it and feel that it is already lost. My wife is, many would say an ordinary woman whose face is perhaps beautiful, walks rather painfully slowly, does not have a figure worth any attention, but to me she is more valuable than my own life. Although she is very near me most of the time I feel like I have not got enough of her. I fear losing her and sometimes feel as if I have lost her. So many times I ponder what life would be without her. It will be like I will be blinded and maimed for the rest of my life or even worse.

We do not have much physical intimacy. I have forgotten when I last had sex with her (I am 55 now). And we have fights, sometimes stormy, about little things of life. We do finger point each for not doing this and that and she and I shout at each other at the top of our voice. Yet when I snuggle beside her and she tells me that she had seen an orange colored cat which even said “meow” when she approached him the world melts within me. The dog “Nyaota” comes up in the conversation. He looks imploringly for biscuits and when my wife gives a few to him he crawls up her sari with his two legs to say his love to her. He also makes a squeaky sound with his voice to show his joy when he encounters her. My wife tells all these to me and I feel that only things in universe that matters are the cat and Nyaota. I also tell her a few stories of my own, like the cat in the street that seemed worried and busy and careworn with life. She giggles at this and asks me to tell more.

My wife also is a poet. And I think she is a great poet. Although world may not know her name now we dream someday whole world would know it. When she writes something which she thinks good she come up and tells me “hey listen to what I have written”. I cannot always hear her immediately because I may be busy with some other things but I always feel those words crawled in the note book someday will make her and me proud.

When I think of myself I feel I am both a great and small person. I have cheated my wife whom I love so much a few times in net (physical want takes form you do not want it to) and not earn enough to support her. I got a good education and became a bachelor of engineer. But I became a failed engineer and spent most of 20 years of life in confusion. It is very recently I am doing what I really like to do but unfortunately that is not enough to earn me a livelihood . And my cheated wife trudges slowly her way to office which she hates just  to support us. Sometimes  I feel pathetic and once again go to job sites and seek for an immediate job and go back to office life. Yes, money. That will save everything. But I know that will stop me doing what I like most and kill me inwardly but let me have perhaps a decent life financially and my wife will not have to go to office. On the other hand I think of things I like to do and do easily. Like writing on everything that moves me emotionally. I feel someday someone will notice my obscure articles somewhere and give me money for these. Because these are works of love. And when I do things I like to do I feel great. I think my life is of worth something in this world because I have done something which came from deep within myself…they are original…completely mine.

Love is the most selling thing in the world. As I told you the movie was a hit and grossed ten times the amount it was made with, telling about love. As my wife calls to come to her chest sometimes when she feels lonely and I smother my face in her bosom I feel like it has value beyond money and is eternal. As I wish I could melt inside her chest that this love even can bring something we dearly need, namely money. I wrote this article about love because perhaps it will bring me little money someday.

The man in the movie lost his wife and found a new woman. I fear that. I do not want a new woman in life ever. I just want that my wife become healthy and happy and fit ,a successful person in life without ever having to do the things she does not like.

The new woman in my life would be She.