LOVE AND HATE

In the myriad of acquaintances, or by blood relations, we come across some people we love and sometimes we hate.

What is love and hate actually? To define these two words is one of the most difficult things in the world.But I, in my arrogance and vainness, will try.

Love perhaps is the affinity towards a person because of which we forget and forgive one’s faults and frailties and continues to like the person.

Hate is the opposite. When we hate somebody we dislike him or her in spite of his or her qualities and ability.

Of course love can be described for a different kind of emotion. That is we sometimes love objects and habits, which is inanimate things because of our natural habit and genetic conditioning and perhaps other things.

However when we say love someone or something it always is an emotion which always describe our affinity to that person and object. Hate obviously is the opposite.

How we come to love someone. It is an indefinable quantity. Sometimes we like someone for looks, sometime wit, sometime humor, and sometime wealth, sometimes the twinkle in the eye and sometime for nothing at all.

But that is the beginning. With time love grows because our egos are fulfilled by the person we love. Sometimes when we are tired and helpless and almost totally destroyed physically or mentally, a soft (or hard) touch of hand almost miraculously saves us from total destruction. People, when they love somebody, are beside those whom they love when their need is paramount.

Hate on the other hand makes us do the opposite things which love does. That is we want to destroy them physically and/or mentally and want them totally destroyed.

Why the same person is loved and hated by two other persons or sometimes the same person?

The answer to the first question is that we view the same person from different angles at different times and situations. We hate the same persons we loved when they are insensible to our physical or emotional needs and hurting us by their insensitivity.

We tend to love someone after long association because the more the time grows the more the person serves our emotional and physical need and we tend to forget the person’s little and sometime big folly.

Same is true for hate but in the opposite sense. His or her follies override in the long term all the qualities the person may have.

We naturally love our off springs or our other blood relations because they are almost part of us. Genetically and experience wise they share much of the same things we do. They inherently understand our likes and dislikes, emotional and physical needs. However in extreme situations when all or some of the requirements are not met by the blood relations we may hate them also.

However for some indefinable reason we love or hate somebody sometime in spite of all the factors I have mentioned above.