DO WOMEN WANT LESS SEX?

Women want less sex than men in general. It is self evident. There are enormously more incidents of males forcing women to sex than the other way round. Men watch porn almost twice as much than women. There are far more number of female prostitutes making money pandering to male desire than male prostitutes making livelihood by catering sex to women. There are always far more number of men in chat rooms (which is highly sexualised) than women. Most men have to “win” a woman in romance. Of course there are women who “win” their men, but generally they are for permanent relationships than for winning sexual favour. Of course there are reasons like men having more money, opportunity and domination etc for this. However it does not really explain the big difference.

I always was intrigued by this fact. Why would it be like this? In every other normal physical action men and women operate equally. One cannot say that women have less hunger for food than men. Normal physical activities like sleeping, eating, bowel movements, and emotions like anger etc are equal among both men and women. Also we see there is a great law governing this universe. That is to arrive at a stable condition all the forces must equate to zero. This is a law of mechanics but applicable to everything. We see that everything is divided into two and equally charged. Without the electrical charges being the same electricity cannot flow. All matter is composed of same number of oppositely charged fundamental particles (if it is not, it is not in stable condition). Human beings and in fact all living beings are just matters composed and organised in a certain way. So by nature the positive and negative should be same. And on top of that by nature both the male and female want perpetuate their genes. So both sexes equally want equally to procreate. Men and women equally want to be father and mother respectively. Sexual urge is an expression of wanting to be a father or mother. So why would women have less sexual urge than men?

The matter of fact is that equality between men and women are maintained in a complicated way. Nature has endowed men with more physical power but women have more physical beauty. Men have more mathematical intelligence but women have more “emotional” intelligence. So although women are weaker and shorter than men they maintain a superior sexual power (namely beauty) to balance out the inequality. Sexual equality is maintained in a very complex manner. Testosterone, the male hormone (which gives men the maleness) enhances sexual urge in human beings. It is also responsible for aggression and it starts to flow in men in great proportion when they reach puberty. Women also have testosterone in their body but the amount is much less than in men. The female sex hormone oestrogen is more geared to make the appearance of women and giving women the power to mothering and bearing a child. Oestrogen is present in males in far less quantity. So men have more urge for natural chemical reasons.

The biggest point is the sperm count in men gets back to sufficient level within 24 hours to make reproduction possible another time. So a normal fit man is capable of producing babies every day. Women however produce a single egg in almost a month. So they can be mother only once in a month and once they get pregnant there are no more eggs in her body for almost a year. So her want and need is naturally curbed. So this is a clear reason for her to want less sex than men.

However nature does not like inequality. It seems that when women are fertile and want to be mothers (that is during the ovulation), their sexual urge increases and intensifies to match that of men. And it seems it gets even stronger than men during peak time. They feel the hunger so much that many women fantasize of sex forced upon them and having multiple male partners at once. They are also physically endowed to have multiple male partners. The word “gangbang” particularly suggests a single female with multiple males. The opposite of this is not commonly heard of. The reason is a single female has enough physical desire to meet desires of multiple males. This in a way reduces the paucity of available women with sexual desire and creates equilibrium between sexes. Also a man having sex with one partner cannot perform a second time for a while. Whereas a female is capable of having sex continually so that she is able to mate with multiple male within a very short period of time.

So to summarize although female have less sexual appetite more of the time, at her peak can have more desire than men to balance everything.

The Easiest Way to God

God is infinite and there are infinite ways of getting Him, but perhaps the easiest way is to surrender oneself completely to Him and then do whatever comes to mind without thinking of past or future knowing that whatever happened in past was His making and He will take care of whatever happens in future.
All that have happened in past has made one come to the point of surrender and once surrendered God takes away all the burden from him and life becomes very light.

TIME TRAVEL AND “IT”

In a recent experiment Australian scientists made time travel possible. They sent a “photon” back to past. This experiment is very recent and created much curiosity throughout the world as it was published in world’s premier scientific journal; Nature.

The experiment is compatible to Einstein’s concept of a wormhole. According to Einstein’s General Theory of Relativity space and time are interconnected and can be called a space-time curve. A skew in this curvature can cause a hole through which one can go back to the past .And General Theory of Relativity has been proved beyond doubt.

But here comes the very pragmatic and simple argument called grandfather question against the notion of possibility of going back to the past. The argument says if it is possible for you to go in to the past you will be able to stop your grandparents to meet (like killing your grandfather!), thereby stopping your birth itself. So logically it is impossible to go in to the past.

Then how do we come to terms with these two conflicting scenarios which are both true!

Let me tell you that a photon although is a particle is actually the smallest “packet of energy”. As everyone knows mass and energy are interchangeable and from the famous equation of special theory of relativity of Einstein, E= mc,² where E stands for energy and m stands for mass and c stands for the speed of light (which is a constant). The mass of a photon is equal to zero at rest is actually also a wave.

Photons and also other extremely small particles are dealt in quantum mechanics where things act in a very queer fashion, to say the least. The shape, size and momentum etc. are not very determinable as we are used to in daily life. Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle says that we cannot measure the position and momentum of a quantum particle simultaneously with precision. In the very complex and strange world of quantum mechanics whatever knowledge we gain from daily life of physical world begins to falter.

In almost similar fashion Einstein’s theory of relativity makes us lose our usual way in the macro world of gigantic dimensions like the intergalactic space, mammoth black holes and speeds nearing that of light. With greater speed time becomes slower than when at usual speed we encounter. Black holes are enigmatic objects which do not emit light yet are at core of the galaxies creating sources of vast energies.

Also problematically Einstein’s General Theory of Relativity and quantum mechanics do not go well with each other fundamentally. Only very recently scientists have been able to come to a little bit of rapprochement between the two but not at all totally. Sending photons to “past” through worm holes is one such effort towards the rapprochement.

So it is possible to go back to the past yet it is impossible!

Where does this leave us then? The conclusion is that, the more we delve deeper and deeper in to something and know more we begin to know that we know nothing. There is something unknowable which will elude our grasp however we or the scientists may try now or in any time in future. New questions and new mysteries will always engulf us (like the case of dark matter and dark energy that scientists are grappling to solve these days).

There is something in Upanishads which says Brahman is not describable.

“IT” is the only knowledge yet ever unknown.

THE DRESS CODE

As I was watching a BBC program I came across a piece of news that American school girls were unhappy with their dress code. They have started a movement through social media like twitter to wear dress in school as they wanted to. In US school uniforms are not in vogue but girls are prohibited to wear skirts too short or backless or cleavage showing dresses. They are punished if the dress code is breached, like they are sent back to their homes or wear a long shirt on top of their dress in the school. These girls are objecting saying what they wear is their matter. They are objecting to the proposition that what they wear may “disturb” some boys. They are saying that boys have the responsibility to have control over their emotions and instincts. Some girls showed themselves in the TV show wearing shorts and cleavage revealing clothes and said that these are not allowed in the school and if they wear it they will be punished. More so if the girl is amply endowed in chest and hip.

In 1930s when England’s first women’s cricket team visited Australia the regulation dress was a skirt which had to be not more than four inches from the heel. These days some women play tennis wearing skirts which are “babies of skirts” as my wife described them. And nobody seems to bother.

So what should be the dress code or should there be a dress code at all. The question is serious as it is a fundamental question which even ignites wars in places like Afghanistan and other Muslim dominated countries. There the proper dress code does not even allow women to reveal their faces. Many women are unhappy that this should be such and the social unrest among women and who support them have caused wars between more liberal and conservative sections of people. But the problem among women of Afghanistan and US school girls is not of fundamental difference but of degree. The main problem is whether women should wear whatever they like regardless of what men or even other women think that these may cause problem and help to kindle uncontrollable passions among men. The argument for the women is that it is not there matter that men are troubled by such and who misbehave in response to any kind of dress is their problem. In Islamic states the burden of societal responsibility in these matters are put squarely on the shoulders of women so much so that women are called evil. In other societies the response varies in degrees. In India (my city Kolkata) 20 years back heads would have turned if a woman wore tight jeans. Even now it is considered obscene (even by women) in most parts of India if a woman wears mini skirt in a city street. I think women are to a great degree justified in the argument of their right to choose whatever dress they want but is there a limit to it? Suppose some women come out in streets wearing nothing at all or wearing bikinis? Where should we stand then? Not every male or female are same and their degree of excitement and their control on that excitement is not same. Even within a single person degree of excitement changes at different times. I have found out that in some days when I am too busy with my occupations and problems that even an attractive naked woman would not have my attention whereas at other times a hint of cleavage would spur animal instincts in my mind. Not everyone is Sri Ramakrishna who could control his instincts to the degree such that even when an amply endowed young woman sat on his lap stark naked his mind did not budge from God! And the question does not encompass women only. I, in a moment of madness, posted a picture of mine eating my lunch with my upper half of the body without any clothing in Orkut profile and a woman told me that it was horrible because it showed my thick chest hair. She also said there is a place for everything. If I wore this dress in a beach nobody would have objected to but in a public place it was objectionable. I also read a report that in middle east people found it objectionable that south Indian men wore lungis in such a way that it was folded up to their knees. They found it obscene and some laws were created to ban it.

So clearly not every dress is acceptable everywhere. But what is the boundary line and who would set it? As I have said earlier it varies to extreme degrees between cultures and places and time. I would imagine the amazement and pique of a person from Europe from middle ages if he happens to see dresses worn by modern day men and women even in Asia.

I do not think whatever I wish I dress argument is justified. Apart from personal security the opinion of others matter when it is in public and when others are involved. You simply cannot ignore the emotions and opinion of others if you are to mix with them publicly, in any matter whatsoever.

So the right balance has to come out in context of a particular place, time and culture. You can go nude in some of the beaches but you have to be covered up to head if you are in Afghanistan or in Europe in times of inquisition. Also if I go out in a dhoti or with a pajama punjabi in streets of Los Angeles or Zurich there will be a few eyebrows raised.

So coming to the point I started with what should be the solution for the American school girls. To my mind the best solution is a school uniform although that might not be to the taste of a quite a lot of Americans. A school uniform with taking opinion of all concerned will stop punishments and grievances. It should be democratic for all concerned like the country itself.

IS TRUTH SUBJECTIVE

As everyone can understand, there is this puny you and unimaginably enormous cosmos around you. Whether you live or die matters little to this infinite universe. What difference it makes to galaxies thousands of light years away and the beings that may be there whether you are there or not. So one can say that universe is objective, your existence inside it matters little.

However from another angle this universe ceases to be once you are not there. The universe is there as long as there is perception of it within you. When the perception dies the universe ceases to exist. The sight, sound, smell and the perception itself that the universe is there is no more. Hence universe is subjective. With you the universe is born and with you universe dies.

Similarly whether one is doing right and wrong is both objective and subjective. Let us take the case of a most heinous crime, murder. Objectively any murder or killing is wrong and a crime. Nazis killed millions during Second World War particularly during Jewish holocaust (about 11million were killed). To the outer world it is a crime and murder. But to the Nazis it was rightful thing to do, a revenge for all the miseries heaped on them by the Jews throughout the ages. When the allied forces conquered Germany they killed 5.5 million Germans which are not perceived as murder but rightful killing.

What al Qaeda is doing today, killing innocent people is right to them because they believe they are doing it for the right cause whereas to the many of the rest of the world it is most heinous crime. If you kill somebody because he kills your husband may be right to you but not to the relatives of the killed person.

In our day to day life there is always an opposing point of view. What is right to you is completely wrong for someone else. Just like India and Pakistan both feel Kashmir is part of them. Since each has an own world view and a universe of his own, which as I said is subjective the truths are also subjective. So it is true for an atheist that there is no god as it is true for a believer that there is god. In a subjective universe both is true and there are many truths as opinions.

The Science of Sex Appeal (Face)

Why do we find certain person attractive? Is there any logic or science behind that?Well there is. Scientists have researched all the different aspects of sex appeal. And the conclusion is  very deeply fundamental to our very existence and our inherent desire to live forever by reproducing our genes in the form of children.We find those people attractive because we want to mate with them.And why  do we want to mate with them ?Because their features suggest to us that they are the fittest to produce good children,i.e,they have healthy genes inside.

Let us take the case of face first  because most of the times we look at the face of an individual first.

In the University of Aberdeen,Scotland psychologist Lisa Debruine  in her Face Research Lab has done some very revealing work on this.

In her research she has broken down the face into its different components, namely eyes,nose,mouth and skin. She has taken an average caucasian man and woman (by sampling from 60 males and females).The average woman has smaller jaw,thinner eyebrows ,men have more square jaws,thicker eyebrow and more square hairline.

Average caucasian woman and man . Courtesy Discovery Channel

Debruine has devised a way to make the face of a woman more feminine or masculine by making her eyes smaller or larger, jaw thinner or squarer,eyebrows more thinner (and raising it a bit) or flatter.She then placed the unchanged photo,the masculanised photo and the feminised photo to men.81 percent men preferred the more feminised woman. Similarly majority of females liked the more masculinised male.

    

               masculinised                                         unchanged                                      feminised

     

Now the question is why a face gets more masculine or feminine? During childhood both males and females look similar.As adolescence arrives  sex hormones begin to generate in both sexes.Testosterone in men and estrogen and progesterone in women.These hormones cause male features and female features to develop in case of men and women respectively.The more male hormone the more pronounced male features and more female hormones the more pronounced female features. The higher amount of sex hormones means a very healthy reproductive ability. This also generally indicate good health. Therefore mating with these individuals has more chances of producing healthy children.

So we find an individual attractive because his features indicate that mating with him or her will be profitable for having good children and useful in passing on our own genes to the future generation and thereby perpetuating them.

( Adapted from Discovery Channel video Science of Sex appeal)

http://dsc.discovery.com/videos/science-of-sex-appeal-human-behavior/

SURE STEPS TO MAKE MONEY

The first and most important requirement to make money is a deep hunger for it. The more hunger you have for money more likely that you will make it. This law is applicable to all things. The more hunger you feel for something more likely you are to achieve it.

Since you are reading this article I assume that you have a reasonable appetite to make money.

You can make money with anything in this world because you get money for what is required in life. The point is everything is required in life to some extent, so if you are able to provide quality things in that particular field consistently and competitively you will make money.

Although you can make money with anything it is best to choose something which you like to do best. So if you like to write poetry try to not make selling breads your profession. Because you will make quality things only when you like your work consistently. And more you like a work more you will do it consistently. If you are happy with what you are doing professionally it surely will fetch you money.

Do not do one thing today and another thing tomorrow however more lucrative a thing may seem to you than what you are doing now because everything  has its own pitfalls and whatever you are doing has its own advantages.

Do not lose your time with brooding about your failures. Nothing is achievable at one go and failures are the best way to learn and improve your merchandise whatever it is.

To make money you have to concentrate at one way of doing it steadfastly and do it again and again and go on improving it till the end of your life and know more and more about it and then diversify it.

And when you make money you have to find a way to save it because if you spend all your money no money is earned. To do that if you have to judge by your instinct where you should spend and where you should not. So spend very prudently.

Help others in every way you can but in a balanced way, because unless you help others they will not help you and without other’s help you will not make money.

Do not crave for instant success. If you do your work persistently success will come slowly but surely.

Now I am coming to the most important point and key to success in any field in life. To do all the things above you have to control your mind. Because mind is generally very frivolous and make you do things which will result in losses. In fact controlling our minds is the ultimate and only real challenge of life. You must make your mind focus at the thing you like, in this case ways of making money. It is not easy and you have to practice it. Each day meditate on something for a certain length of time, starting with a very small time which you can manage and then go on increasing. As your control over mind increases your control over everything will increase including making money. You will find deep but easy ways to achieve your goal and you will react to emergencies better. Your capacity of decision making will be greater and greater.It will make you disciplined. It will even make you like a job you generally dislike. So if you are trapped in a profession you do not like this is the only way out.

And lastly do not forget to give your daily prayer to God. Remember whatever you do the factors in life are so innumerable that without the help of the Omnipotent you will not be achieve anything in life. If you are an atheist always try to do what your intuition and conscience tells you to do, because conscience is a form of God dwelling inside each of us. So give a part of income for benevolent causes. The more the better. It will come back to you tenfold in way of happiness and money.

ADVANTAGES OF BEING DRAUPADI

     Many in history have discussed about the pain of Draupadi  for being shared by five men at the unintentional directive of her mother in law Kunti. She had many misfortunes including being humiliated in the royal court of Kauravas and her five sons being killed in a single night by Ashwathama at the end of Kuruksekhtra battle. However if you get to think of it she enjoyed a few things which are unparalleled by any Indian woman or for that matter woman of any other country.

1.She had five handsome virile men whom she could enjoy according to her mood. She could “ do” with her devars ( brother-in-law) and bhasurji which is a secret wish of many Indian women . And nobody had the right to call her any bad name for that , instead people sympathized her for it. She could compare the abilities of these great guys in bed and say it to the other guy if she was not satisfied. She had the man she loved but had an additional bonus of four more exceptional men at her disposal for her any need.

2.She had a different man for different needs. If she had any physical ailments she could go to Nakula or Sahadeva who were doctors. If she had something to do which was physically challenging she could and did go to Bhima. Like smashing the bones of somebody who mistreated her or anybody she disliked, or get a flower from heaven which was not available in earth. She could go shopping with a guy her mood fitted with.

3 For romantic trysts and husbandly transactions she could go to Arjuna . She had the prize honor of having the greatest hero as her husband of whom she could boast of to anybody she liked.

          

4.For spiritual and philosophical tete-a tete she could go to Yudhistira. Also if she had a bad mood she used him as a punching bag which she did quite often. She was fortunate enough to have someone to spit away about all her misfortunes.

5.She had God Himself , Lord Krishna, as her personal friend and savior were she in any trouble. Which other woman in the world had such unparalleled advantage.

In the annals of Mahabharata Draupadi has been painted as one of the most unfortunate women and somebody you wanted to sympathize. However if you think quietly all her wishes were fulfilled. She was a queen of a great prince and possessed all the wealth she wanted at the end. Her greatest humiliation in life, the attempt of disrobing of her at the royal court was fully avenged with the death of all the Kauravas including the chief miscreant Duhsashana the way she liked , she washed her hair with blood from his chest.

In fact she is the central female in Mahabharata and the battle of Kurukhsetra happened to a great extent for her and she won in the end.

FREEDOM

The REAL FREEDOM is freedom from DESIRE.
We are slaves of others because we are slaves of our desires. When the desire is gone we are free from every slavery. However one need just a little bit of desire to live. Without any desire a man ceases to exist. So the ultimate freedom is death.