DO WOMEN WANT LESS SEX?

Women want less sex than men in general. It is self evident. There are enormously more incidents of males forcing women to sex than the other way round. Men watch porn almost twice as much than women. There are far more number of female prostitutes making money pandering to male desire than male prostitutes making livelihood by catering sex to women. There are always far more number of men in chat rooms (which is highly sexualised) than women. Most men have to “win” a woman in romance. Of course there are women who “win” their men, but generally they are for permanent relationships than for winning sexual favour. Of course there are reasons like men having more money, opportunity and domination etc for this. However it does not really explain the big difference.

I always was intrigued by this fact. Why would it be like this? In every other normal physical action men and women operate equally. One cannot say that women have less hunger for food than men. Normal physical activities like sleeping, eating, bowel movements, and emotions like anger etc are equal among both men and women. Also we see there is a great law governing this universe. That is to arrive at a stable condition all the forces must equate to zero. This is a law of mechanics but applicable to everything. We see that everything is divided into two and equally charged. Without the electrical charges being the same electricity cannot flow. All matter is composed of same number of oppositely charged fundamental particles (if it is not, it is not in stable condition). Human beings and in fact all living beings are just matters composed and organised in a certain way. So by nature the positive and negative should be same. And on top of that by nature both the male and female want perpetuate their genes. So both sexes equally want equally to procreate. Men and women equally want to be father and mother respectively. Sexual urge is an expression of wanting to be a father or mother. So why would women have less sexual urge than men?

The matter of fact is that equality between men and women are maintained in a complicated way. Nature has endowed men with more physical power but women have more physical beauty. Men have more mathematical intelligence but women have more “emotional” intelligence. So although women are weaker and shorter than men they maintain a superior sexual power (namely beauty) to balance out the inequality. Sexual equality is maintained in a very complex manner. Testosterone, the male hormone (which gives men the maleness) enhances sexual urge in human beings. It is also responsible for aggression and it starts to flow in men in great proportion when they reach puberty. Women also have testosterone in their body but the amount is much less than in men. The female sex hormone oestrogen is more geared to make the appearance of women and giving women the power to mothering and bearing a child. Oestrogen is present in males in far less quantity. So men have more urge for natural chemical reasons.

The biggest point is the sperm count in men gets back to sufficient level within 24 hours to make reproduction possible another time. So a normal fit man is capable of producing babies every day. Women however produce a single egg in almost a month. So they can be mother only once in a month and once they get pregnant there are no more eggs in her body for almost a year. So her want and need is naturally curbed. So this is a clear reason for her to want less sex than men.

However nature does not like inequality. It seems that when women are fertile and want to be mothers (that is during the ovulation), their sexual urge increases and intensifies to match that of men. And it seems it gets even stronger than men during peak time. They feel the hunger so much that many women fantasize of sex forced upon them and having multiple male partners at once. They are also physically endowed to have multiple male partners. The word “gangbang” particularly suggests a single female with multiple males. The opposite of this is not commonly heard of. The reason is a single female has enough physical desire to meet desires of multiple males. This in a way reduces the paucity of available women with sexual desire and creates equilibrium between sexes. Also a man having sex with one partner cannot perform a second time for a while. Whereas a female is capable of having sex continually so that she is able to mate with multiple male within a very short period of time.

So to summarize although female have less sexual appetite more of the time, at her peak can have more desire than men to balance everything.