Women
want less sex than men in general. It is self evident. There are enormously more
incidents of males forcing women to sex than the other way round. Men watch
porn almost twice as much than women. There are far more number of female prostitutes
making money pandering to male desire than male prostitutes making livelihood
by catering sex to women. There are always far more number of men in chat rooms
(which is highly sexualised) than women. Most men have to “win” a woman in
romance. Of course there are women who “win” their men, but generally they are
for permanent relationships than for winning sexual favour. Of course there are
reasons like men having more money, opportunity and domination etc for this.
However it does not really explain the big difference.
I
always was intrigued by this fact. Why would it be like this? In every other
normal physical action men and women operate equally. One cannot say that women
have less hunger for food than men. Normal physical activities like sleeping,
eating, bowel movements, and emotions like anger etc are equal among both men
and women. Also we see there is a great law governing this universe. That is to
arrive at a stable condition all the forces must equate to zero. This is a law
of mechanics but applicable to everything. We see that everything is divided
into two and equally charged. Without the electrical charges being the same
electricity cannot flow. All matter is composed of same number of oppositely
charged fundamental particles (if it is not, it is not in stable condition).
Human beings and in fact all living beings are just matters composed and
organised in a certain way. So by nature the positive and negative should be
same. And on top of that by nature both the male and female want perpetuate
their genes. So both sexes equally want equally to procreate. Men and women
equally want to be father and mother respectively. Sexual urge is an expression
of wanting to be a father or mother. So why would women have less sexual urge
than men?
The
matter of fact is that equality between men and women are maintained in a
complicated way. Nature has endowed men with more physical power but women have
more physical beauty. Men have more mathematical intelligence but women have
more “emotional” intelligence. So although women are weaker and shorter than
men they maintain a superior sexual power (namely beauty) to balance out the
inequality. Sexual equality is maintained in a very complex manner. Testosterone,
the male hormone (which gives men the maleness) enhances sexual urge in human
beings. It is also responsible for aggression and it starts to flow in men in
great proportion when they reach puberty. Women also have testosterone in their
body but the amount is much less than in men. The female sex hormone oestrogen is
more geared to make the appearance of women and giving women the power to
mothering and bearing a child. Oestrogen is present in males in far less
quantity. So men have more urge for natural chemical reasons.
The
biggest point is the sperm count in men gets back to sufficient level within 24
hours to make reproduction possible another time. So a normal fit man is
capable of producing babies every day. Women however produce a single egg in
almost a month. So they can be mother only once in a month and once they get
pregnant there are no more eggs in her body for almost a year. So her want and
need is naturally curbed. So this is a clear reason for her to want less sex
than men.
However
nature does not like inequality. It seems that when women are fertile and want
to be mothers (that is during the ovulation), their sexual urge increases and
intensifies to match that of men. And it seems it gets even stronger than men
during peak time. They feel the hunger so much that many women fantasize of sex
forced upon them and having multiple male partners at once. They are also
physically endowed to have multiple male partners. The word “gangbang”
particularly suggests a single female with multiple males. The opposite of this
is not commonly heard of. The reason is a single female has enough physical
desire to meet desires of multiple males. This in a way reduces the paucity of
available women with sexual desire and creates equilibrium between sexes. Also
a man having sex with one partner cannot perform a second time for a while. Whereas
a female is capable of having sex continually so that she is able to mate with
multiple male within a very short period of time.
So
to summarize although female have less sexual appetite more of the time, at her
peak can have more desire than men to balance everything.
